Single parent dating with special needs child
That’s a disappointment on both sides.” —Brendon, 36, Providence, RIWhat makes dating with kids more difficult?“My experience has been that as a single dad, one of the most difficult issues is my lack of flexibility.Becoming a parent presents us with challenges we’ve rarely been able to plan for, but what if your child is disabled or has special needs? But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around….The following poem never ceases to touch a chord – while we all tread differing paths with our children, no matter how difficult the route, each journey holds its own treasured moments: WELCOME TO HOLLAND by Emily Perl Kingsley. and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills…Holland has tulips. But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy…because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss. if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things … As a kid, I harbored a special fondness for movies in which the entire plot was children destroying their parents’ new-found love, no doubt a byproduct of my own issues with my stepmother and then-stepfather.
Also, I don't get child support, so there's a strong financial consideration.But in the end, I felt like it was kind of deceptive to not include it up front.What if we are having a great first date but my kids are a dealbreaker for them?I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability – to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there.It’s like this……When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous trip – to Italy. And for the rest of your life, you will say “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go.