This man exists in many different shapes and sizes all over the world, and he's multiplying. My generation is no longer plagued with the ‘but do you think he likes me?The needy man epidemic has been rising in recent years. ’ worries that our mums and older sisters had – we’re more worried about how to ditch the needy men asking us out.Suitors back away from you because you’re mercurial.Boyfriends fall out of love with you because a relationship with you is neurotic, difficult and emotional draining.The question if you’re being too needy or a man is emotionally unavailable cannot begin to be answered without first understanding your particular patterns in a relationship.Because chances are that if you notice a man pulling away, this is not the first time it’s happened to you in a relationship.You allow men in your life who are non-communicating, non-committal and abusive. We can’t choose our dads, but we CAN choose the quality of men we allow in our lives.
While I seemed like a successful, confident girl on the outside, on the inside my self-esteem was shaky at best.
Being able to “get” a guy who was out of my reach to like me felt like a high that no drug would ever be able to compare to.
My subconscious pattern went something like this: meet an emotionally unavailable (but charming) guy, have a connection, see them pulling away, cling harder to them, feeling that if they could just somehow get into my reach then I’d be worthy.
Needy, clingy behavior is a clear sign that you lack confidence in your worth. Your father was emotionally unavailable, hyper-critical or abusive and you have a low sense of self-worth.
You keep looking for man’s conditional love but you gravitate to men who are non-communicating, unfaithful, deceptive and abusive—men who somehow remind you of your father.